Have you ever found yourself wondering if you’re being treated unfairly at work? Worse yet, have you caved into a bully’s behavior because standing up felt too intimidating? You’re not alone. Many employees feel powerless when faced with workplace bullying, but there’s a way to reclaim your power: the demand strategy.

The demand strategy is all about making it clear how you want to be treated. It’s simple, direct, and surprisingly effective. Let’s break it down.

Demand Proper Treatment—With Confidence

Imagine this: a colleague yells at you in a meeting or uses intimidation tactics to get their way. Instead of staying silent or walking away frustrated, say something like:

• “Next time when you talk to me, don’t yell at me.”
• “I can help you better if you don’t intimidate me.”

It doesn’t have to be a speech—just one or two sentences delivered calmly and confidently. This lets the bully know what’s acceptable and sets a clear boundary.

No Need for Threats

Here’s the beauty of the demand strategy: you don’t need to threaten action to be effective. Avoid statements like:

• “Don’t yell at me, or else.”

Instead, focus on what you expect:

• “Please keep your voice down when we’re discussing things.”

This approach keeps the conversation professional and productive while still asserting your boundaries.

Tips to Enhance Your Demand Strategy

Here’s how to make your demand even more effective:

1. Use a Mild Tone
   Confidence is key, but yelling or sounding confrontational can escalate the situation. Speak firmly but calmly to make your point known.
2. Be Clear About Your Expectations
   Clearly state what constitutes proper treatment. For example:
   • “When we talk next time, I’d appreciate it if you’d keep your voice down.”
3. Follow Up with an Email
   After the interaction, send a short, professional email to reinforce your point. You can even lighten the tone with a friendly opener:
   • “It was nice talking to you in the hallway earlier.”
     Then follow up with a quick confirmation of your boundary:
   • “As we discussed, I’d appreciate it if future conversations remain calm and respectful.” 

Reclaim Your Workplace Confidence

The demand strategy is a simple yet powerful tool to stand up to workplace bullies without escalating tensions. By calmly and clearly asserting how you expect to be treated, you can take control of the situation and create a healthier work environment. Remember, standing up for yourself isn’t just about confronting bad behavior—it’s about valuing yourself and the respect you deserve.